I’ve been divorced for 12 years. I love being single. I’m happy that I am free to check my own oil, refill my own washer fluid, and pump my own gas. However, in saying that, it’s not for everybody. I’ve had to learn how to use a drill, take apart a bed, put together a bed, and most exciting, I’m more than capable of carrying about fifty pounds of groceries up three flights of stairs. That’s right, because I’m single, I get to do this all for myself. I don’t have to say “Thank you dear, for carrying this”, “Thank you honey, for fixing my car”, I don’t have to thank anyone or be grateful to anyone for anything. It’s awesome that I have all the freedom in the world!!!
Freedom… it’s worth all the heartache.
Freedom… it’s worth it.
Freedom…it’s in you to give.
Now, if only I could change a tire.
I reblogged you, because I find you funny.
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YAY, thank you so much!!! ❤
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fo sho
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Gawd you must be so busy. You have not posted.
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I have one written!!!
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The last I read of you was your stumble story. then you puffed away
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Aw I’m sorry! “You’re perfect, now change” will be done tonite 🙂
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Oh that’s great. i am here bored at work, now I have to wait. That’s perfect.
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Aww, I’m sure there’s good stuff you haven’t read yet?
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obviously I am stalking you, so you believe that there are such stuff.
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I love my stalkers!! They leave great stuff on my doorstep 🙂
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LMAO
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🙂
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There you go!! Posted it for you 😀
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Sorry to spam your blog! I’ve closed my old blog, and started a new project. It’s a blog that anyone who wishes to post on can do so. Admin rights are given to anyone who wishes to post here. But, you can also read and comment like any other blog, too. I hope to see you there!
Rob
http://forfriendswithoutborders.wordpress.com/
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Ok thanks!!
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Hahaha…love your view of “singledom” (I found your blog at Lucky Otter’s Haven – Share a post Saturday.) I am 50+ and divorced for eight years. The freedom I gained from an alcoholic spouse is priceless. I’m happier & healthier today and enjoying life like never before. Like anything, there are pros & cons, but I (currently) have no interest in getting married again. This is my time and I’m enjoying the freedom, too!
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Hi so glad you found me!! Freedom is awesome!! 🙂
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I found you while surfing other blogs. Your title intrigued me. Now you just make me laugh. Read a couple of posts on the way here. I was finally single at 62 I love being single. What I can’t do, I can hire or barter for the doing. Being single is underrated.
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Awesome! So glad you found me 🙂 and yes, you can hire anyone 😀
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Hey! Just wanna thank you following my blog! Great site! You had me at your site name! So Hilarious! I’ll a frequent visitor for sure!
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Awesome!!! Thanks so much 🙂
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Awesome blog! I am soon to be divorced after 20 years of marriage. I am on my way to freedom.
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Aw I’m sorry to hear that. 20 years is a long time. I hope you saved a lot of the cute memories. I always smile when I think of my ex husband.
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It is a long time I divorced mine after 25 years I’m much happier my only regret is I didn’t leave sooner
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Thank you for following my blog!
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My pleasure!!
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Good on you! 🙂 Great Site!
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Thanks Laura 🙂
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Amazing blog 🙂
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🙂 Thanks so much! Glad you found me!!!
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Glad to have found you! 🙂 Looking forward to explore more of your site. 🙂
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🙂
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You’re funny! I enjoyed that bio more than most I’ve read!
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Ha that’s awesome! Thank you 🙂
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Thanks for following my blog. There’s a shout out to yours on mine later today!
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Thank you!!!
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I came across your blog through another blogger, she gave you a shout out. You are very funny. I love your posts!!
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Thanks so much!! Glad you found me 🙂
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Being a single is not fun. The Number 1 thing in the human’s life is the relationship which makes humans happy and this secret found after 75 years of research.
after failing in true love, anyone can live a life being a single… but it is not really easy…so do not say it, you are happy…..nature can’t be wrong. Sorry if sound crazy.
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Actually, I AM happy single. Many people are, many many people would prefer to be single than stuck in a relationship with someone horrible.
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Things always don’t work the way we want but this is our job to make it work for us…. you are the first person i met who claim to be happy being a single, this idea is a little bit stranger to me. “interesting”
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You can’t be happy in a relationship unless you’ve been happy on your own
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O ya , you are right but it’s not the complete happiness which humans needs.Relationship has big role in happiness and cannot be ignore 100%. it’s a little bit confusing but there is no harm to try to understand.
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Ok. But I don’t understand your confusion with someone saying they are happy. Why would you even question it, argue against it, and tell them they are wrong?
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O ya because, it’s a life major issue, being a single is against the nature,i am on the nature side,and i believe, Love Is Life.
In some science fiction movies this topic has been described very deeply.
and Do not mind my comments, the topic is interesting that’s why I want to discuss it even more. I am gonna read a lot about it.
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Actually it’s not against nature. You are born alone and you die alone.
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It’s a Brule (Bulshit Rule) but you cannot live alone 100%.
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of course you can, why are you arguing with me?
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Impossible..I am really Sorry! but I am stick to my point.
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Ok, so find someone who says they are happy and tell them that they aren’t…. and argue with them when they repeatedly say they are actually happy. Tell them, no, you can’t be happy.
That’s actually NOT a nice thing to do.
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okay, stop it , you are missing the point.
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no, you are missing the point. PS who’s blog are you on? Mine. that’s right.
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Oh! again missing the point.I am on your blog and the page is about me ! and the page says being a single is freedom! okay if you want to argue I have millions of points that it is not a freedom. stop it or continue?
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You are telling me I am wrong to be happy single. That is messed up. Never tell someone they are wrong to be happy about anything. Leave people’s happiness alone.
I’ve never met anyone who spent this much of their time telling someone it was WRONG TO BE HAPPY. How is being happy wrong?
Ok, here, I’ll go get a man and be miserable because Zada told me too. Does that work for you?
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I asked you to continue or stop it right here? do you read comment? it’s a discussion NOT argument okay.
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and you have a million points on why I’m wrong to be happy?
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Sweet Baby Jesus, Zada, you’re the one missing the point. Because YOU need someone to be happy doesn’t mean everyone else in this world does. Everyone is different, get over it and chill out.
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If your life is filled with great friends, who needs to be married?
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So true Lloyd 🙂
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I can’t imagine my happiness being based on anyone else but myself. My children make me happy, being outside makes me happy, riding my motorcycle makes me happy, eating ice cream makes me happy, being at my job makes me happy, my friends make me happy, the sunset and sunrise make me happy, looking in the mirror makes me happy, photography makes me happy, my bed makes me happy, a good hot cup of tea makes me happy, I could go on for hours about the things that make me happy but absolutely none of those things have anything to do with a partner. I have been in a relationship depending on them to make me happy… It was not real. I have been in a relationship with someone who depended on me to make them happy and it was completely exhausting. I guarantee you at 52 years old I know myself, I know what makes me happy and what doesn’t. I can’t imagine feeling so dependent on someone else for something so important and I can’t imagine what it must be like to be so unhappy with my own life that I have to try and convince others they are wrong in the choices THEY make for THEMSELVES. PEACE, LOVE AND GROOVINESS (trust me it will make you happy)
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what flavour is the ice cream 🙂 and thank you!!!
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Zoda,
Being married or single is a choice. For instance, Catholic priests can’t marry and becoming a priest is a choice, but most priests live very full lives. There is also a village where all men are banned and onlyh women live there. It’s Umoja, Kenya,
https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2015/aug/16/village-where-men-are-banned-womens-rights-kenya
In fact, there is plenty of evidence that marriage and monogamy goes against human nature. If marriage was so great, why do so many marriages end in divorce?
You hold a view, an opinion, that not everyone agrees with. For instance, “Here’s Why The Idea of ‘Traditional Marriage’ Is Total Bullsh*t”
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/01/20/historical-marriage-definitions_n_4589763.html
Marriage is a choice. Here’s a piece in Time Magazine on “Why 25P of Millennials Will Never Get Married”
http://time.com/3422624/report-millennials-marriage/
And Psychology Today reports on “Why Some People Can’t Find Anyone to Marry”
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fighting-fear/201304/why-some-people-cant-find-anyone-marry
Then there is Mount Athos in Greece where women are not allowed. Women have been forbidden from setting foot there for over 1,000 years. The men that live there do so by choice.
http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-36378690
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🙂 thanks Lloyd. I’m not even sure how this is an argument to be honest.
You’re wrong to be happy. Who the eff says that.
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I’ve never been married and I’m not slitting my throat.
Thank you the follow, SAS, and I am now following you!
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Awesome! Nice seeing you here
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Zada, I challenge you to list your 1 million reasons that being single isn’t a natural choice and make sure to link those opinions to facts that provide proof they are arguably correct.
Simply put, being single or married is a choice. Genetically, most men and women are not designed to be faithful to one mate for life. And being faithful to your mate, married or not, is also a choice. That’s why husbands and wives cheat on each other.
“Evolutionary psychologists have suggested that men are more likely to have extramarital sex, partially due to the male urge to “spread genes” by broadcasting sperm. Both males and females, these scientists say, try to up their evolutionary progress by seeking out high-quality mates, albeit in different ways.”
The committed partnership between a man and a woman evolved, some say, for the well-being of children.
“The human species has evolved to make commitments between males and females in regards to raising their offspring, so this is a bond,” said Jane Lancaster, an evolutionary anthropologist at the University of New Mexico. “However that bond can fit into all kinds of marriage patterns – polygyny, single parenthood, monogamy.”
http://www.livescience.com/32146-are-humans-meant-to-be-monogamous.html
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Actually, I would like to read a million reasons that I’m wrong to be happy. That makes me happy, that I’m wrong to be happy. Wrong. To. Be. Happy.
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Maybe Psychology Today answers that in “23 Ways Single People Are Better: The Scientific Evidence – a lot of research shows that single life is superior”
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single/201405/23-ways-single-people-are-better-the-scientific-evidence
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You’re making me happy, I hope that’s allowed hahaha
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Probably not by what’s its name, Zada, who has an unwritten law that must be applied to all single people that they “Shall Not be Happy”
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https://skinnyandsingle.ca/2016/09/29/ten-reasons-why-im-wrong-to-be-happy/
I just wrote a post about it 🙂
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Lloyd! Could you please explain to him that he’s a Motherdick and an Everyday douchebag? Please? I’m happily married and was happily single. As I always say we have brains, we have needs, we are all different. It’s sad that she can’t be happy and single? Oh ! Wait! She is happy and single. Yay! I’m so happy my friend is happy …end of story.
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Yep a full day of telling me I’m wrong to be happy. A full day.
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Tell them you are free to be the greatest here tonight. I’m stealing lyrics from Sia for you. That’s how much I love you
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That exchange with Zada explains it all. I totally agree that if your can’t be happy by yourself your chances of being happy for long with someone else are slim to none. If you NEED someone else to make you happy, that’s dependency and very fragile. I’ve tried to be the happymaker and know well how Sisyphus felt rolling that rock up the mountain.
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yep, truth right here
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Exactly, if someone else is your reason for happiness are you really happy? Zada is special. On my time off I’m going to hang out here and look for inspiration for rants! I’ve written enough meaningful essays . Can I please rant about this?
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Please do 🙂
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Shareen,
But we don’t know if Zada is a him or her and what country/culture him or her lives in or grew up in. This afternoon I listened to a program about women in Afghanistan and they estimate that 85 percent of women in Afghanistan are victims of physical domestic violence.
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A Motherdick has no gender. Just basic douchebag …that you ever so skillfully covered. I can tell that having been to the region -it’s a fact. It doesn’t cover all Arab countries like say Lebanon but in this instance specific to Afghanistan & Syria which I almost got arrested at the border at 18 for -you guessed it talking shit to a Syrian Soldier- this is true. I have seen the refugee camps. I have spoken to the women in Arabic and I know after more interviews than I can even count that people like Zada hate anyone who undermines their authority. I am Lebanese but if you have met any of the women in my family you will know that the culture is different & douchebags run a fucking muck I’m concentrated areas. They reduce to the lowest most ignorant common denominator . Oh, and I love you. I mean that in a non -creepy-happily married blog crush way. Love , love you. 💋💋💋💋
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Lloyd , I enjoy changing my own tires said me Never. However, I did learn how but only because I’m a Red Cross Disaster first responder and I own a Jeep with a wench so I can pull people out of places they get stuck. I didn’t learn this for practical reasons . I don’t volunteer for practical reasons either. I just need to know where everything is when the world implodes so I can be like Trump and be an opportunist. When the apocalypse happens …which I now firmly believe will start because Laura is single and happy and Zada is probably one of those people who is a hacker and gets the nuclear codes from Hilary’s emails –anyway as I was saying as a Trained , certified volunteer I will know where all the supplies are so like Trump who loved the housing crash I will capitalize on the world ending with my volunteerism and Tiring changing skills. I will do it wearing a skirt, perfect hair and Louis Vuitton…classy and shit
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Bahaha that’s awesome
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So , um I’m going to have to use my comments as part of my rant. I’m using up my best material here. Fuck. Laura. You bring out the dragon in me and I love you.
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Aww thank you!! Feel free to link to the madness that inspired you. Bahahaha
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I will. Oh. Yes . I will. You feel free to link it back to babe. Shake it for me!
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Lolol
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And I’ll so link back to it teehee
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If the world goes to shit and civilization collapses, I’d like to suggest wearing blue jeans and boots. Gear: back pack, freeze dried rations, water, lots of water, and have a cabin in a remote wilderness area that’s well hidden from the crazed zombie masses. Classy, sexy clothes don’t do well in the wilderness. In fact, instead of jeans, camouflage military field issue clothing to help blend into the wilderness and make it harder for the crazed mob and zombies to spot you moving around in the bush. Oh, and a crossbow like that guy in the Walking Dead. Firearms make too much noise, alerts the crazed mob and zombies.
Weapons: I have an arsenal but should stock up more ammo, and lots of knives of all sizes.
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Thank you. We have crazies in the U.S. too.
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Lloyd- I’m actually really certified lol. I did volunteer K-9 search and rescue with my dog. I have a full gear bag and Nursing bag, studied nursing and can do field stitches etc. I would never wear a skirt or anything that’s not field tested. However, Louis Vuitton is actually really strong sturdy luggage. I wouldn’t use it but I will defend my luggage -ha! My gear bag is the same that all FEMA use. It’s ready to go and I keep it updated. I do yearly training sessions and run not for fun but so I can take care of myself. I’m also a damn good shot with exception of a shot gun. I can’t do a shot gun accurately but damn good with a pistol and it’s not pink. I’m a balanced woman. My dad told us that we should never expect anyone to take care of us. We better be able to take care of ourselves. I’m high maintenance but I maintain myself. If I can’t buy it for myself I don’t expect it to be bought for me. My husband loves that I’m able to do all the things myself and still go to a fundraiser all dressed up. I prefer not to be dressed up but will do it!
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I better say this before everyone assumes I’m denying we have a gun problem. I know how to use a gun because I should . No NRA drama. 😁
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Sounds like you are ready for the the zombie apocalypse. You don’t have to be a good shot to use a shotgun. Just point at the target and pull trigger. Repeat if anything is left of the target. Shotguns are actually safer for other people on the other side of the target. Heavy caliber rounds tend to go through the target and a few walls and anyone in between that wasn’t a target.
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Way to own your singleness (is that a word?)! I’ve been happily married for 24 years but I still try to be independent, although I really hate dealing with car issues. i tell my husband all the time that’s why I keep him around!
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They gotta earn their keep, don’t they 🙂 haha,
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Hi! 🙂
Thank you for the follow on my blog. I truly appreciate it.
I enjoy reading your blog and enjoy what you post.
Tar
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You too and thank you 🙂
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In time you´ll be able to change a tier!
i see that you favoured a comment,
i shall follow!
Dreaming kisses chris
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Hello! Thanks for following 🙂
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You´re welcome kindedly!
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Fun read! I enjoyed every minute of it.
http://www.thegrandsecondhand.com
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Thank you 🙂
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Thanks for the follow!
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You’re welcome!!!
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Thanks so much for the follow! Truly honoured! Love your style!
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Thank you 🙂
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Hello Dear,
You have a beautiful blog here. I loved your theme. Great content and the colours are easy on the eyes.I was intrigued to read it and was wondering if you and I could be collaborators. I am a new blogger and started my humble blog some three months ago and had almost 3,300 followers. I believe blogging community is the most supportive and encouraging community. I want some writers as well. I kept unwell and was looking for someone who would like to post on my blog too. I would be highly obliged if you take a look at my blog and allow me an opportunity to collaborate with you. I love to write and write for some Ezines and Webzines like Roberta Pimentel and The Millionaire’s Digest. I write poetry, free articles, short stories and all other things. I can write content you want and word limit can be followed too.
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Found you through Jason’s post…sorry you were plagiarized, makes me crazy. Look forward to exploring your blog…you have a powerful voice. Van.
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Hi! Thanks so much. 🙂
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I just joined the club not too long ago, 40’s, single, but not quite skinny… yet 😉
Though I’m happy where I am. I embrace my uniqueness.
I like the wit of your posts. Thanks for the “follow”… just followed you back.
More power to you. 🙂
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Hiii! I was just reading that you want to learn French!!! Haha 🙂 embrace your uniqueness, love that 🙂
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Yes, it is pretty challenging to learn how to pronounce the French words correctly without practicing it with a French person and with the limited time I have with my Frenchie, there’s no chance for that even though he offers. I’d rather we talk about something else. Plus there’s not much pressure for me coz he speaks English fluently.
Thanks for dropping by my blog. 🙂
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You’re welcome!! I always look for new friends!! Bonjour 🙂
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Bonjour!
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I love your outlook on singlehood and life in general. Happy to have found your blog! Here’s to being single and fabulous as long as you want to 🙂
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Thank you, so glad you found me 🙂
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You wouldn’t think I would would blend in well here, I’m a househusband, not nearly as skinny as I should be, but I am in my 40’s. Despite the differences, I love what I’ve seen of your blog thus far! I’m looking forward to following.
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Everyone blends in, I love and am grateful for everyone that comes to visit 🙂 I’m glad you are here. 🙂
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Love this in every way! Am happily married. Nonetheless, I believe it’s better to be happy alone than settle even for Mr. or Ms. Not Quite Right.
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Ms not quite right, love that!!! 🙂
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Being with wrong person is lonelier than alone, at least for me.
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Yes. It’s awful, agreed
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thank you for following my blog. I’ve just followed yours as I find your blog so refreshing. Hoping mine will have the same effect soon.
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Thank you!! When I get home, I’ll have a read 🙂
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Hey!!
Thank you for following my blog! Yesterday I was searching on parenting and I came across your blog. your approach towards expression is open to all, and I like your writing! I am about to start my blog and you return me the favor, it has given me a great motivation towards writing. thanx once again.
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Awesome!! Thanks and best of luck!!
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thank you!
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I fucking love your fucking blog! 😀
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Haha 🙂 that’s awesome! Thanks for finding it 🙂
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Fucking damn glad I did! 😀
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Hi Dear,
Hope this message finds you well.
I am writing to you because I just nominated you for the Sunshine Blogger Award. Check the rules and all about it at my latest post.
Smiles and Hugs
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Thanks so much 🙂
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I’m not sure when you wrote this “about me” page, but I’m looking for an update on whether or not you can change a tire now…lol
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No, I sure can’t 😀 hahahaha
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I’d tell you that it’s time to learn, but I like to practice what I preach 😀
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naw, i’ll pay people to do it 😀
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I’m a 58 year old male and now single. My girlfriend of 1 1/2 years dumped me on my birthday Feb 3 because I lost my job and her son hated me.
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That’s sad. I’m sorry 😦
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That why even men belong to AAA so if we have a flat, lock ourselves out of the car, run out of gasoline if we still drive a gas-powered auto, or have a dead battery, we call AAA and let them take care of it. I think I pay less than $40 a year to belong to AAA’s roadside asistance program.
:o)
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